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Photo Illustration of Paige McKenny by Constantina Varlokostas and Natalia Weichsel<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Twenty-somethings are ditching traditional relationship customs in place of polyamory, according to 28-year-old Paige McKenny, but no one is talking about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

McKenny took up non-monogamy in their mid-20s after grappling with a series of relationships they would describe as non-functional and emotionally abusive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the idea of an open approach to love didn\u2019t begin to brew until a conversation with a partner in 2015 that helped McKenny understand what non-monogamy really meant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen we started seeing each other, we both knew we wanted certain things in life that were going to lead us on divergent paths. And so when we began our relationship, we had a really frank discussion about what we wanted, and what we needed,\u201d McKenny said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The couple ultimately decided to have an open relationship with no expectations for the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWe were really interested in spending time together and cultivating a relationship, knowing that there was an end point to it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For twenty-somethings like McKenny, ditching traditional relationship customs such as marriage in place of polyamory has a growing appeal. From self-help books on becoming an ethical slut to the BBC series Trigonometry<\/em> to 2019\u2019s very public break-up of Hollywood triad Tana Mongeau, Bella Thorne and rapper Mod Sun, polyamory is having a moment. Even if the idea of having multiple concurrent partners may be taboo among some older generations, one in five Canadians have been involved in a consensual non-monogamous relationship, according to one study. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Experts and everyday explorers of non-monogamy all agree honesty, open communication and trust offer the best chance of success.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Found at a local Ottawa shop, Venus Envy, the polyamorous flag symbolizes openness and honesty through its blue stripes, love and passion with the colour red, and solidarity through black. It also features the Greek letter \u03c0 (pi), as it\u2019s an irrational number with infinite decimal places.<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n

Polyamory, polygamy are different ends of the spectrum<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

What is polyamory? Some may confuse the term with polygamy, however, according to No\u00e9mie Kyryluk, they are two very different ends of the spectrum. Kyryluk, a registered psychotherapist and certified sex therapist, likes to describe polyamory as having different people to fill different needs whereas polygamy involves one man with multiple wives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cA way that I like to think about it is as friendships, you have multiple friendships. Rarely does one person have one friend that you expect to do everything with you,\u201d Kyryluk said. \u201cDifferent people meet different needs, and you expect that, it\u2019s just the norm. Polyamory is kind of the same concept.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n